This passage from James about selfless wisdom means a lot to me:
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth.This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, twithout partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.Many years ago, a wise woman I knew taught this acronym: Jesus first, Others second, You last -- which makes for Joy. Over the years, I've noticed that women who truly practice this are the happiest!
Wishing you a fruitful, peaceful, and wise 2012!